When fast-moving Mars falls into retrograde, things can get confusing fast and your love life can suffer as a result. But when slow-and-steady Saturn starts moving backward, it doesn’t bring chaos—in fact, it can shift everything into perfect clarity.
Saturn in retrograde brings inward thinking and creates room for personal change in your rules and routine—so if you’ve been unlucky in love or striving for someone you just can’t seem to reach lately, it’s time to hold on! The boundaries that have been holding you back are getting kicked to the curb, while your love life slingshots forward into not only the kind of relationship you’ve been dreaming of—but one that will last, too.
1. Take a look at your own personal set of rules about dating. Uptight Saturn can keep you a little too strict with your own romantic code, but while the planet is in retrograde, you’ll feel the freedom to evaluate the way you approach relationships. Do you have some serious Dos and Don’ts about the first date? Always wait at least an hour before you return a text? A retrograde Saturn releases you to realize that the things that you’ve been doing to keep your heart safe may be keeping love at a distance at the same time.
2. Consider what factors have been motivating you in love. Wanting a special someone because you crave the attention or are afraid of being alone is totally normal—but while Saturn is in retrograde, it’s time to dig even deeper. Let all of your fears and insecurities bubble up to the surface. Sometimes a factor that feels like it’s driving you towards finding love can actually be holding you back.
3. Examine your past relationships. You’re not just looking for what works for you here. A retrograde Saturn leaves you open to deep, intense reflection, which might just mean bringing your past back into the light and noting where your relationships have failed before. Were you too distant? Too clingy? Chasing after Mr. Wrong because you couldn’t let go of the prospect that he could be Mr. Right? Understand that these relationships weren’t meant to be for a reason—and understand those reasons were. Once Saturn is moving forward again, it will be time to let the relationships of the past go for good.
4. Ask yourself what you really want. The rules and expectations that others have for you (and that you have for yourself) can become practically restrictive, but this is a time that strict Saturn finally lets all of those things relax. Without pressure from the outside world, you’re free to finally uncover what you’re really looking for in love. If you’ve been dating for looks when all you really care about is honesty, Saturn is giving you permission to stop chasing hotties and start looking for a real connection—so no matter how gorgeous he is, it’s time to let that Brad Pitt lookalike go!
5. Open yourself to new possibilities. Let your heart warm to the prospect of new experiences, new love—a whole new you. By the time Saturn ends it’s period of retrograde, you’ll feel your romantic habits and mindset toward love become more set in their ways again, so use this time to recalibrate. When Saturn is on a back-spin, it really has a way of stripping you down and leaving you bare, but it doesn’t have to leave you vulnerable—in fact, it can leave you stronger than ever.
Annie
June 9, 2016 at 11:40 AM
Very interesting and very similar to the kinds of things I have been mulling in my head since another relationship just bit the dust. So when DOES Saturn start moving forwards then 🙂
Linda
June 9, 2016 at 2:43 PM
This article is “spot on” with the realization that “pretty boys” are NOT THE ONES to be with…they are too engrossed in themselves to even think about their woman…she’s just something that makes them look better….decent looking men win this love war…they are the REAL men…they care about a woman and aren’t afraid to show her!!!!